The Toadies - Possum Kingdom

One of my favorite songs. I absolutely loved this song when I was growing up. Looking back I can see why I connected with it as it reflected how I felt about my sexuality at the time but had an unapologetic feeling to it. It encapsulated very well the sense that while I felt I had to be the nice guy everyone was saying women wanted (despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary in their choices) what I wanted was much more… visceral.

I didn’t want to be a friend, I wanted to lead, I wanted to fuck. I didn’t want to politely ask for things, I wanted to take what she wanted to give. I wanted to push her to her knees and watch her eagerly suck my cock after I shoved it in her mouth. I wanted to slap her pussy and ass and chastise her for teasing me all day. I wanted to grab her by the throat and pound her till she still felt it with each step the next day. I wanted to hold her down and lick and suck her pussy, not letting her move so she knew I was doing it to her rather than for her.

Compared to what I was told women were looking for, what I had an interest in sharing with them felt much more sinister. That’s what this song has always expressed to me, a sinister unflinching sexuality comfortable with expressing the wonderfully unseemly nature of human desire. Even if at the time, I thought it was only my desires that I felt a need for despite my ‘better nature’. With the hindsight granted by age, it’s a shame I bought into what I was told rather than what I observed. My youth could have been a much happier time had I embraced my nature.

punderstruck:

i can’t remember the last time my traps were this tight.

damn you, hang cleans!

It’s funny how the brain works when attraction is involved. First reactionary thought to the words before thinking about where the trapezius muscles are, “Yea I bet those traps are tight! I wouldn’t mind getting caught in hers…” The thought after actually processing what was said, “I’d like to have my lips on those traps.”

Kimber Day and Bruce Venture.

This video is why I learned Bruce Venture’s name. I’d always thought of him as the buff ‘Porno Frankenstien’ due to that lantern jaw is just missing a pair of bolts and the pretty gruesome circumcision scar. Also always seems like being with him is probably surprisingly underwhelming for the ladies as while the fellow is obviously packing some heat but it always seems pretty floppy.

Good thing I don’t watch porn for the guys I guess.

Also, is video is the source for this very popular gif. The bit in the gif starts at 6:25.

sex-love-heart asked:

From what you've been posting, I understand the idea about being against feminism, but I felt like I needed to make it known that what's even showcased is the worst kind of feminism. I consider myself a feminist but I would never deem femininity wrong or condemn other women OR men for being feminine OR masculine, that's the part I hate. The main goal for me as a feminist is respect. I just wanted to make it known that not all feminists are man hater and hypocrites....

icansexyouwithmybrain:

aneyeisuponyou:

icansexyouwithmybrain:

aneyeisuponyou:

I understand your position, however it doesn’t matter what feminism means to you, what feminists say feminism is about or what feminism is defined as in a dictionary. All that matters are the actions carried out in that ideology’s name, all the lies and misinformation feminism has been used not only to create fear within the hearts of women towards men but also to influence the creation of laws and policies that are harmful to men. Actions speak louder than words.

I know there are plenty of women who think the same as you do who call themselves feminists, but I feel that rather than trying to correct people who like like myself, you instead need to educate yourself about what feminism is actually doing rather than just trusting the message about what it’s aiming to accomplish. You’ll find that it’s the feminists you disagree with who are controlling it’s actions, you might find that you are in fact, not a feminist and are in actuality an egalitarian. Also it’s worth noting that despite their claims to the opposite, feminism is not an egalitarian movement for equal rights, the name Feminism alone makes it’s focus clear.

Why should any of us care about what’s done in the ‘name of feminism’? What I care about is equality and how people treat other people.

You get caught up in arguing about the labels, in what “feminism” means or doesn’t mean, as if there’s one perfect answer to that question. There isn’t. It’s semantics. I see a lot of good stuff posted and said under the guise of feminism, and I occasionally see some pretty stupid stuff, too.

But really, I don’t care if you call yourself a feminist or not, so long as you care about the same things as I do; about how people treat each other.

So, you can either diss a movement that has a lot of people that care about equality but also does have some assholes.. or you could just focus on calling assholery that you see, when you see it. But you’re not gaining anything by focusing on the label.

You should care because what is being accomplished by feminism is the exact opposite of what you claim to care about. What does it matter though, it’s only men and women who want to make choices other than what feminism deems as acceptable who are being being negatively impacted and they don’t count when it comes to equality so everything is good.

Actually, no I did not get caught up the labels, I said that the labels were irrelevant and what feminism actually does is more important than what it’s claimed to be about. 

I appreciate your sentiment. I wish I could in good conscience echo it back to you but I cannot do so while you sit in one corner of your group chatting happily and ignore what’s going on in the other corner rather than telling them to knock it off or leave. Were it really ‘nice’ feminists like you who were in control of the movement, you would stand up and kick out the ‘assholes’ and work to block the changes harmful to others that they try to enact into law. Were you the majority you would be successful.

Either those feminists who are like you aren’t really standing up for equality for all and are just taking every privilege feminism wins for women or you are not representative of mainstream feminism.

As I said, I wasn’t focusing on the labels, my emphasis on those points was to preemptively cancel out any ‘but that’s not what feminism means’ strawman arguments in response. You focused on the labels rather than my actual argument.

Nope.. I still don’t care about what’s done in the “name of feminism”. 

There’s not some test you have to pass to be called a feminist, no set of beliefs you have to formally accept. Anyone can call themselves a feminist, and that doesn’t mean they speak for me, in the same way that there are Christians who bomb abortion clinics or Muslims who blow up buses in the name of their religion. So, I can’t stand up and “kick out” the ‘bad’ feminists. It’s not like we regularly meet and take a vote on this stuff. It’s not some club I can kick people out of.

On top of that, I don’t see how calling yourself a feminist (or not) should make much difference for me. If you’re a jerk, I’m going to call you out whether or not you’re a feminist. Calling yourself a feminist shouldn’t matter here; you don’t get a pass for being a jerk if you accept that label, nor do I treat you worse if you don’t. 

I do have my ideas about what feminism means, and yeah, obviously I’ll argue about that. But what’s more important is: I do speak out when people push for laws that favor a gender, or when people try to push gender roles, or in any other way treat people badly on the basis of gender or sex. That’s what feminism means to me. But I don’t do it because I accept ‘feminism’, but because it’s the right thing to do. 

You can say that labels don’t matter to you, but you’re the one posting the arguments about feminism and feminists, and you’re the one telling people that their self-labels might be wrong, that they might “in actuality” be an “egalitarian”, not a feminist. 

For someone who doesn’t care about labels, you sure talk about them a lot, and heck, you even pushed your own preferred label. So… ‘Methinks the lady doth protest too much’. 

I don’t know if you’re intentionally missing the point and getting lost in my side arguments and responses to your claims where I have to address what you said and ignoring the crux of my arguments, however while trying to argue against me you’ve made an argument I would make in my favor in a short sighted way.

No we don’t blame the majority of Christians or Muslims for the actions of their violent radicals nor feminists for the actions of theirs. We do however take exception to when they attempt to pass laws when they infringe on our freedoms. Radicals create violence, main-streamers use their acceptance to create laws.  Which is the point you continue to miss. It’s the mainstream feminists making harmful laws to push their agenda. If you and feminists like yourself were really the mainstream then they wouldn’t be able to get these laws made. Not that you, yourself being male would be welcomed at any discussion that concerns laws regarding men. As despite the common perception, even early feminism when it was the woman’s suffrage movement has never been about equality and certainly in no way noble.

As for your use of Shakespeare, that quote does not mean what you think it means, when asked how she is enjoying the play, Gertrude replies to Hamlet, ”The lady doth protest too much, methinks.” She means that she promises too much. In Shakespeare’s time protest meant to vow or declare, which is why Hamlet responds to queen gertrude with, ”O, but she’ll keep her word.”

sex-love-heart asked:

From what you've been posting, I understand the idea about being against feminism, but I felt like I needed to make it known that what's even showcased is the worst kind of feminism. I consider myself a feminist but I would never deem femininity wrong or condemn other women OR men for being feminine OR masculine, that's the part I hate. The main goal for me as a feminist is respect. I just wanted to make it known that not all feminists are man hater and hypocrites....

icansexyouwithmybrain:

aneyeisuponyou:

I understand your position, however it doesn’t matter what feminism means to you, what feminists say feminism is about or what feminism is defined as in a dictionary. All that matters are the actions carried out in that ideology’s name, all the lies and misinformation feminism has been used not only to create fear within the hearts of women towards men but also to influence the creation of laws and policies that are harmful to men. Actions speak louder than words.

I know there are plenty of women who think the same as you do who call themselves feminists, but I feel that rather than trying to correct people who like like myself, you instead need to educate yourself about what feminism is actually doing rather than just trusting the message about what it’s aiming to accomplish. You’ll find that it’s the feminists you disagree with who are controlling it’s actions, you might find that you are in fact, not a feminist and are in actuality an egalitarian. Also it’s worth noting that despite their claims to the opposite, feminism is not an egalitarian movement for equal rights, the name Feminism alone makes it’s focus clear.

Why should any of us care about what’s done in the ‘name of feminism’? What I care about is equality and how people treat other people.

You get caught up in arguing about the labels, in what “feminism” means or doesn’t mean, as if there’s one perfect answer to that question. There isn’t. It’s semantics. I see a lot of good stuff posted and said under the guise of feminism, and I occasionally see some pretty stupid stuff, too.

But really, I don’t care if you call yourself a feminist or not, so long as you care about the same things as I do; about how people treat each other.

So, you can either diss a movement that has a lot of people that care about equality but also does have some assholes.. or you could just focus on calling assholery that you see, when you see it. But you’re not gaining anything by focusing on the label.

You should care because what is being accomplished by feminism is the exact opposite of what you claim to care about. What does it matter though, it’s only men and women who want to make choices other than what feminism deems as acceptable who are being being negatively impacted and they don’t count when it comes to equality so everything is good.

Actually, no I did not get caught up the labels, I said that the labels were irrelevant and what feminism actually does is more important than what it’s claimed to be about. 

I appreciate your sentiment. I wish I could in good conscience echo it back to you but I cannot do so while you sit in one corner of your group chatting happily and ignore what’s going on in the other corner rather than telling them to knock it off or leave. Were it really ‘nice’ feminists like you who were in control of the movement, you would stand up and kick out the ‘assholes’ and work to block the changes harmful to others that they try to enact into law. Were you the majority you would be successful.

Either those feminists who are like you aren’t really standing up for equality for all and are just taking every privilege feminism wins for women or you are not representative of mainstream feminism.

As I said, I wasn’t focusing on the labels, my emphasis on those points was to preemptively cancel out any ‘but that’s not what feminism means’ strawman arguments in response. You focused on the labels rather than my actual argument.

sex-love-heart asked:

From what you've been posting, I understand the idea about being against feminism, but I felt like I needed to make it known that what's even showcased is the worst kind of feminism. I consider myself a feminist but I would never deem femininity wrong or condemn other women OR men for being feminine OR masculine, that's the part I hate. The main goal for me as a feminist is respect. I just wanted to make it known that not all feminists are man hater and hypocrites....

I understand your position, however it doesn’t matter what feminism means to you, what feminists say feminism is about or what feminism is defined as in a dictionary. All that matters are the actions carried out in that ideology’s name, all the lies and misinformation feminism has been used not only to create fear within the hearts of women towards men but also to influence the creation of laws and policies that are harmful to men. Actions speak louder than words.

I know there are plenty of women who think the same as you do who call themselves feminists, but I feel that rather than trying to correct people who like like myself, you instead need to educate yourself about what feminism is actually doing rather than just trusting the message about what it’s aiming to accomplish. You’ll find that it’s the feminists you disagree with who are controlling it’s actions, you might find that you are in fact, not a feminist and are in actuality an egalitarian. Also it’s worth noting that despite their claims to the opposite, feminism is not an egalitarian movement for equal rights, the name Feminism alone makes it’s focus clear.

paleeudaimonia Said:

I forgot to submit yesterday, but there you go Sir, hope you like it…

I do indeed. it’s a photo that creates thoughts, a decision actually. Which way to follow those curves of yours. Should my hand go up tracing a slow line to your neck where I grab a handful of your hair, pull your head back and kiss your lips and neck before guiding you downward and making note of how eagerly your lips wrap around the head of my cock. Or downward, my hand gliding along your thigh and slipping between your knees, pulling your legs apart and revealing what lies between before licking and biting my way down your thigh and putting my lips to yours.

paleeudaimonia Said:

I forgot to submit yesterday, but there you go Sir, hope you like it…

I do indeed. it’s a photo that creates thoughts, a decision actually. Which way to follow those curves of yours. Should my hand go up tracing a slow line to your neck where I grab a handful of your hair, pull your head back and kiss your lips and neck before guiding you downward and making note of how eagerly your lips wrap around the head of my cock. Or downward, my hand gliding along your thigh and slipping between your knees, pulling your legs apart and revealing what lies between before licking and biting my way down your thigh and putting my lips to yours.

Bioware is like the meth addict at an intervention.

After the e3 presentation for the next mass effect game I got curious about the DLC for Mass Effect 3 and decided to finally give it a go. I was not a fan of the ending in the least and except for listening to the brilliant soundtrack I pretty much ignored the series. I was quite a fan of the series, you could go so far as to call me a lore geek about the back story which is why I was especially interested in leviathan as there are references to it scattered here and there in the series.

I found myself annoyed with it early on because suddenly the story of the leviathan of dis was about finding what killed it in an obvious attempt to further defend the terrible ending to the series by adding more loss of narrative coherence. The ending went off the rails, and this comes out in an attempt to flesh it out by driving it further off the rails.

The funny thing is that then Citadel is almost apologetic in tone. By nature of DLC in the series, as well as their stubbornness about coming to terms with the fact that their pretentious ‘uplifting and inspiring’ ending was terrible, Citadel takes place before the end of the game. However after finishing the primary storyline of the DLC it’s clear citadel acts as the epilogue everyone expected to get after the finale. You don’t get to see how the character’s you’ve become invested in carry on after the events at the end of the series, thought you get a sense of how they might have lived. If you know they hadn’t lost narrative coherence with how the mass relays work.

The gist of that bit of the ending is that all the relays get overloaded with energy and explode ending the threat of the reapers in whatever color you picked. It’s established in the arrival DLC of ME2 that when they explode they do so with enough force to wipe out a solar system at the least. So if they follow their own cannon no matter what your choice at the end of the game your actions should essentially destroy the galaxy you’ve been fighting to save. Bioware has stated that they exploded in a special way that doesn’t destroy anything but the reapers if you pick that color. Which following this is pretty grim.

The loss of infrastructure to the larger society based around traveling the relays around the galaxy would be catastrophic. Imagine what would happen if suddenly all the major roads/highways, trains/subways, planes and ships were destroyed at once on earth and you have an idea of the consequences of this loss of infrastructure. It’s not outright destruction, but countless people will die from starvation. Whether they were stranded in a distant system or on a colony not yet self sufficient.

I bring this up to point out how poorly written the ending is and how little thought went into it. Even with their defense of one aspect of it is poorly considered. Yet if you were a fan of the game or games in general you know that after the game was released there was a major backlash from disappointed fans who were angry at the shoddy ending an impressive series was given. Bioware equated it’s fans to spoiled children.

Playing the expansions clarified my feelings on their ‘hurt’ irrational reaction at the time. They were akin to a drug addict in denial at an intervention. The fans were like concerned family members troubled by their suddenly erratic behavior. Except Bioware thinks it’s ending is artistic and thinks everything is  the same as it’s always been, just with a dash of something new and we just didn’t understand. It wasn’t as bad as we thought. How dare we tell them how to live their life (write their game) if they want to do something new that’s up to them.

Pain Tolerance and Muscle Mass

I read a study a few months ago that found that men have a higher natural pain ‘tolerance’ than women. In essence the study found that men don’t register lower levels of pain and instead feel it more as discomfort and negative stimulus needs to be more intense for us to register it as pain. The article pointed out several evolutionary benefits to this such as aiding in our role as protectors.

I was working out last night with my new heavier dumbbells that I received for my birthday and was happy because the exercises I do with them were challenging again and I thought about that study and the strength difference between men and women and realized the two are probably connected.

It accounts for why men tend to have larger gains faster, the old saying is true, pain is gain. Lifting weights ‘tears’ your muscles and the size and strength gain comes from when your body uses protein to repair and reinforce them. So we can ‘tear’ our muscles more allowing for greater reinforcement during the healing process.

I’m making a new tag with this post, I’ve mentioned in the past that at certain times two thoughts collide and I reach an epiphany about something. I tend not to post them but in the future I will do so more often under the tag. ‘Thought Collision’ and use it as a subset of the overall ‘My Thoughts’ tag.